I co-slept with my daughter when she was newborn, i did it because she wasn't always keen to settle in her Moses basket at first and i was exhausted...I’m glad I did it and I’d do it again ( if i had another baby) I’m convinced its why she was such a good sleeper and sleeping through by 8 weeks ( although that wasn’t my intention.)
I’m not your average sleep consultant, I don’t believe rocking/feeding/cuddling to sleep are bad habits. ( but i do think if you use these methods to settle them exclusively you could face some challenges later if you want to stop click here to read more) I co-slept and breastfed on demand and still got my daughter sleeping through the night relatively early on ( 8 weeks old - click here to read up on how i did it!)
Many of the mums I meet confess to me that they co-sleep when they find out I’m a more holistic gentle sleep coach, its something they often won't admit to anyone outside of their circle because of the bad press that co-sleeping often gets.
If your little one isn’t sleeping you might be considering sleep training or modifying of some sort, you might be worried or even feeling overwhelmed by the task.â Should I change my daily routine?â â Should my baby be napping more? â Is my baby napping too much? â
What’s not a big deal to us grown ups can be a huge deal with our toddlers, emotions and feelings that are new or overwhelming for our little ones can be a reason why they sometimes struggle to fall asleep or getting back to sleep when our little ones wake up!<blog_break>
At times when our little ones are having a meltdown or tantrum try to remember (I know this is easier said than done) that a tantrum is really your little ones struggling to deal with something and that sometimes they need our help to deal and cope with those feelings.
It doesn’t mean giving them what they think they want, Sometimes it’s just acknowledging to them what they are feeling and allowing them to space to feel it and then calm down from it.
It’s really really easy, when sleep deprived to react impulsively when your toddlers kicking off, but remembering that meltdowns and tantrums are just your child’s way of communicating to you.
A tantrum is their way of saying “ I can’t deal with this can you help me with it”. That doesn’t mean doing whatever necessary to stop the tantrum & tears, it can mean just acknowledging what he or she is feeling and allowing them to feel it in that moment.
Kids will sometimes have tantrums because you’ve put boundaries in place, they don’t like those boundaries and are mad about it, does that mean you allow them to push those limits because you don’t want them to be angry? Anger is an emotion like any other and at some point in life it’s an emotion that they will experience. It’s ok to be mad or angry. It’s a normal emotion and a learning opportunity for your toddler. They can be angry and they can calm down from it if you show them how, but they won’t learn how to deal with anger and other negative emotions if we don’t allow them to feel them, develop an understanding of them and learn how to calm down. Our little ones rarely listen to what we say but they do pay attention to how we behave.
Its our job to calm the chaos not join in with it!
Do you have any tips for dealing with toddler tantrums and meltdowns? Share with us what works for you in the comments.
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