How to move away from contact napping
Hey first time mum or mummy to be
Congratulations! This is an exciting time for you. After you give birth you’ll probably feel every emotion under the sun, joy, excitement, maybe some anxiety and fear of the unknown.
I'm so excited!!
Yesterday I had a client win by changing just 1 thing!!!
We managed to reduce 2 hourly wake ups overnight to just 1 wake up between 7pm and 6 am in just one day!!
A little background info...
Naps! Tricky for some a breeze for others but for those of us who find sort naps tough to solve, I have no qualms in using every trick (safety being paramount of course) in the book to help mums find ways of nailing naps.
Getting your little one down for naps can be tough, perhaps due to daylight and busyness that comes with it being the day an all. If your little ones already overtired getting them down to sleep at any time can be tough but during the day it's Just that much harder. Even if you get them down to sleep, your little cat nappers eyes just seem to pop open out of nowhere after 30 min and no matter
I often talk about knowing your little one's sleep cues especially the early ones so that you can avoid overtiredness. Overtiredness can make it realy difficult to settle our little ones to sleep. Crying, meltdowns and tantrums are later cues of tiredness your little one might display but by the time they are crying they may already be too tired.
So how can you recognise those early signals of tiredness? What do they look like?
Early signs of tiredness can vary from baby to baby. Your baby or toddlers signs may be completely different to another childs. Common early signs of tiredness can be sudden loss on interest in interacting with you, pulling their ears or rubbing their noses or faces.
A great way to familiarise yourself with your own baby or toddlers early sleep cues or signals is to look at the average time your baby can be awake before needing to rest and sleep, ( the table below displays the averages) then around the end of that time pay close attention to your little ones behaviour and see what you notice. Do this a few times a day over a couple of days? What do you notice? what actions or behaviours do they display repeatedly before you notice the more obvious signs of tiredness?
Those little things they do could be their unique early sleep cues.
Some early sleep cues your baby may display are:
- Suddenly losing interest in an activity when moments ago they were totally engaged
- suddenly avoiding eye contact
- ear pulling
- nuzzling into your shoulder or arms
- blankly staring
- many other cues so pay close attention for a few dyas and see what you notice
When you begin to recognise those early signals begin the wind down process. Get them prepared for a nap, in a nice dark and quiet room or place, usuing white noise if necessary. In a few days you will notice your baby falls asleep more quickly and easily and with a lot less resistance.
Watch a live stream i hosted on the topic over on Periscope Here
If you are reading this because you have a baby or toddler doesn't like sleeping as much as you do, I'd love to help you feel more confident, less overwhelmed and kick sleep deprivation to the curb... here are some ways ways i can be of help.
1. You can join my community over on Facebook for sleep deprived mums wanting more gentle and respectful soultions to their babies sleep problems. Connect with me there and other mums who share your mission for more sleep using more gentle and child focussed methods. I created it to be space for commeraderies, support, inspiration or even just a safe space to come and have a good old whinge when sleep deprivation is kicking your butt! To join us over on FB Click Here!
2. If your thinking about maybe sleep training your baby i have a free baby sleep class that can help you decide on how to sleep train your baby or toddler and 7 Key points to think about before you sleep train so that when you do start you see success quickly and with as little stress as possible. To access that free training Click Here....but hurry as i will be taking that free training down very soon
3. You can optimise your little ones daytime sleep to avoid overtiredness ( and undertiredness) by structuring naps throughout the day. I have created for you a daily routine that will ensure that your baby get plenty of sleep during the day and at the right time ( and duration) so that at night time they'll settle to sleep with ease and sleep through the night sooner rather than later. I've created routines for the first year of your baby's life and you can download your years worth of baby sleep routines here
4. You can work with me privately to help get you and your baby or toddler sleeping through the night. We can work together and plan a sleep solution speciifically for you and your family and have me hold your hand, offerif emotional support and accountability to help you confidently shape ho your baby or toddler sleeps To book a session with me click here to select a package that suits you and book our sessions together or email me for a free discovery call where we can chat and see if working together is a good fit for both of us!!
My most challenging cases have always been the cases I've learnt the most from. This case study was not actually from my work as a night nanny but from my day job so to speak. I was working as a member of management at a Day Nursery and was in charge of the Baby Unit. Names have been changed.
Baby Victoria aged 10 months old, At fulltime nursery and needs to be held and rocked to fall and stay asleep both at naptime and overnight.
I met baby Vicky when she was 7 months old, a gorgeous little girl with a passionate fiesty spirit. Vicky was a quiet observant little girl but if she was upset boy did we know about it. Her personality/ temperament type was The Grumpy Kid to a T, particular, observant ,tactile,thrives on routine doesn’t cope well when they can’t anticipate whats happening next . Vickys mum had recently returned to to work and up until heading back to work had been babywearing & breast fed Vicky on demand.
Hello Lovely Mums and Dads
I hope you are well and getting as much sleep as possible!!
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How I get 12 toddlers to nap EVERYDAY at nursery! ( If it works with 12 toddlers it will be breeze with just 1!)
At nursery, a few weeks back we had a perspective parent make an impromptu visit to the nursery, I was in the baby room with 12 sleeping toddlers and the dad came in on tiptoes awe struck.
“How do you do this? We have a nightmare getting Netty to nap.”
It was 12.55 and all 12 of my babies were fast asleep.
[Case study] Jamila starts nursery.
This is a recent case study of a little girl who having started nursery was experiencing some sleep regression. Mum contacted me and enlisted me to coach her in order to get Jamila's sleep back on track. Hopefully you will find this helpful if your dealing with a similar situation. Please note names have been changed due to confidentiality.
Jamila is an 18 month old toddler who has just started going to day nursery 3 days a week. Up and till 6 weeks of attending nursery,